Jamie Lee is an executive coach for smart women who hate office politics. She helps them get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus.
For many smart, competent women, the mere idea of being free of their self-doubts can trigger Socialized Guilt.
Socialized Guilt is the culmination of -- over a lifetime -- being exposed to patriarchal conditioning, the message that we're wrong to take up so much space, to have power and to wield authority, because we're *supposed to* defer to others.
The world -- and especially the workplace -- is built in favor of non-HSP’s, but your natural talents have profound value.
You’re the real deal with an incredible capacity to empathize, which builds trust and connection, the raw ingredients for great leadership.
To be born into patriarchy, or any society that systematically gives the upper hand to men, is to be conditioned to internalize the falsehood that there’s something inadequate in us.
ESPECIALLY when we dare ourselves to ask for more power and money.
While the decision to get coached is NOT quite the same as the decision to spend $40 on a jar of ultra hydrating facial cream…
What I do know is that to be informed is to be empowered to make the right decision for you.
So, allow me to share a couple of reasons why the 30 women who DID decide to work with me in 2023 to date have shared with me.
You’re DONE feeling as though you’re at the effect of someone else’s subpar people-management skills and internalized biases.
And here’s the thing to know when working with difficult people, so you don’t lose your sanity while advancing your career.
In the article “Dos and Don’ts of Asking for a Raise,” you’ll learn:
What and when to document to build a strong case for your raise
How to tailor your ask in a way that minimizes blowback and maximizes respect
Word-for-word suggested scripts from two experts, and so much more
"When I think about asking for raise, my anxiety spikes, because what if they say no? I'll feel like a total failure."
A BIPOC client said this to me the other day.
Read on for the three-step strategy I offered my client, so she can advocate for her career growth with more ease and confidence.
✨ Do this 1 minute exercise to dissolve 🫠 your anxiety
Ahead of a negotiation, board presentation, or a difficult conversation…
(Or to stop 🛑 rumination when things are slow)
There's at least 50+ things you can negotiate in your career beyond starting salary, spanning from equity compensation to getting paid out unused and accrued PTO.
To help you brainstorm and strategize for success, I've compiled a list with links to free articles and podcast episodes.
You, who's reading this, is so much more resilient and capable than anyone else's misconceived notions of you.
You want to be able to redirect your brain from a tailspin to coherent problem-solving-mode, so you can calmly respond and rise above the nonsense.
So try these three techniques on for size today.
My client Ann — a brilliant executive who works with a nearly all-male team of leaders — and I came up with this super fun and useful tool that you can try on for size.
It's called the Greta Gerwig Perspective.
Imagine stepping into every room where you're the only woman or woman of color among decision-makers, and worrying less about how you come across and what other people think...
But instead sitting tall, relaxed, feeling good knowing that you're well-prepared and polished -- because that's who you are...
Read more to find out how you, too, can get calm, grounded and confident really FAST.
Watch the replay of my open group call Leadership Lab for Women of the Global Majority.
But before I get into the details, let me take you on a quick journey into the subterranean world of NYC subway system…
It’s NOT your fault if the path to promotion feels murky or unfair…
because in reality, it is FAR from true meritocracy.
And here’s the thing to remember.
You’ve got a big brain, big heart and big intentions to be of service in the world.
You ENJOY being good at what you do. Mastery matters to you.
But as a woman in a male-dominated workplace…
When the opportunity to present your case to the promotion / hiring committee arrives, your heart starts beating fast…
Because, ever since you were a girl, you knew you wanted to be known for being excellent at what you do.
When you find yourself in the loop of overworking but hesitating to advocate for what you want in your career…
This doesn’t mean you can’t negotiate (we all become negotiators the moment we learn how to say "No" at the age of two)
Or that you don’t have the "right" personality to be an influential leader (being loud and extroverted is NOT a leadership requirement)…
It's not your fault that, as a woman or a minority or an immigrant, you internalized the narrative that unless you do things just "right," you'll be unliked, unwanted, unsafe.
If you're like me, this started from when you were a kid.
"Instead of thinking about networking as a way to get something out of someone, you can think about it as a way of being a PORTAL," a client told me this week.
I love that so much, I'm stealing it. 😉
My client routinely works with the C-suite. She works among executives and will become one herself.
But before coaching with me, whenever she had to interact with the CEO (which is on a fairly regular basis), she'd freeze up in high levels of anxiety 🥶 -- her mind spiraling, her jaw clenched, her palms cold and wet.
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