I used to be a high-strung, high-anxiety high-achiever who was convinced she wasn't achieving fast enough.

Got downtime on the job? I must be doing something wrong.

Got hired at a hedge fund? My job can't possibly be safe, because I don't know enough.

After a live demonstration of a simple but powerful strategy to get past no, a workshop attendee asked this question:

"But how do you know whether you're being aggressive, pushy, or too much?"

This was an excellent question, because it voices the doubt we've all encountered.