Are you white-knuckling the status quo — one in which you're underestimated, undervalued, or stifled — while quietly wondering if this is just how it is?

If you're a high-achiever who's genuinely excellent at her job and exhausted by how much that still isn't enough, let me help you do the work to get past that.

What we call “executive presence” isn’t about how you matched your Hermès scarf to your burgundy blazer, how impressive you sound, or the impressive count of grams of protein you ingested in the morning. Executive presence is also about the frequency your body emits—one that other people feel in subtle but very real ways.

This is the real secret to stopping difficult people from hijacking your day: you regulate your field so you’re no longer unconsciously absorbing theirs.

On a cold February night in 2008, I ran away from the South Slope apartment I'd been sharing with my husband like my life depended on it. In a full-blown panic, I ran down 4th Avenue shrieking, "JUST GO AWAY!" to the man I'd shared a life with for the last three years.

When you’re that rare woman, one of the handful of people of color, or the neuro-sparkly oddball in leadership…Navigating office politics and advocating for yourself is spiritual work.