Many of my clients are conscientious, hardworking, type A women in male-dominated industries. When they hear the word "visibility," they wince.

If that's you, good. Your instincts are sound. But before you fix your visibility, figure out which visibility problem you actually have.

[Jamie]’d have me notice spaces on my body, and when I came out of it, she’d say, “What do you know?” And I’d just know. Every time. It’s like she bypasses the amygdala—my fight-or-flight center—and helps the rest of my brain take over. I slow down, find the solution, and then we talk strategy.

It’s not the kind of session people expect. It’s not “What should I do?” and the coach gives a plan. It’s more like, “Let’s get quiet so you can hear your own knowing.”