I used to be a high-strung, high-anxiety high-achiever who was convinced she wasn't achieving fast enough.

Got downtime on the job? I must be doing something wrong.

Got hired at a hedge fund? My job can't possibly be safe, because I don't know enough.

The real secret to negotiating for what you want ISN'T something you don't already know. 

It's actually about DISSOLVING the reasons you hesitate, "wait and see", or avoid having conversations with people who can say no.