No often means something even better is coming around the corner.

This is what my client Sarah Eadie took to heart from our coaching sessions.

After being told she didn't have adequate experience, she flipped no to yes and got hired into a higher-paying role.

A year into that role, she was promoted. Last year she earned a $30K bonus.

She spoke candidly with me in this video interview about how she did it.

In this client interview, Kristine, who works as a software engineer, shares her experience building confidence through coaching.

In this client interview, Roseanne shares how she got promoted and better paid while working on the frontlines of the pandemic.

You’re a smart woman with ideas working in tech / finance / a male-dominated industry.

You share your idea at a meeting.

Here’s what to say when someone repeats your idea and takes credit for it, as if they didn’t hear you.

You have a desire to serve others. As a working woman, a leader, a mother, a daughter, a mentor to others. Your desire to serve is NOT at odds with your capacity to negotiate your career.

Here are 3 stories of my clients who negotiated as an act of service and generated win-win outcomes. This is possible for you, too.

Here's how my client Amy overcame impostor syndrome in six weeks.

This month, I'm helping my clients set impossible goals for 2021.

Going from newly hired associate director in 2020 to managing 2 PnL lines by end of 2021. From learning the ropes this year to raising $300MM in capital for a new investment fund. Ending next year as the first woman of color company executive. WITHOUT burnout.

Here are two things to say to increase your income for 2021. It may not be what you think!

I got to each first doing it messy.

I made LOTS of mistakes. (And still do.)

The costliest mistakes were whenever I thought I had to be fake, play politics or jump through extra hurdles to "prove my worth" at work.

20 years ago in New Jersey, I was an awkward, introverted high school senior.

Even though I had zero popularity, I asked five boys to go to the prom with me.

They all said no.

Complete this challenge once a day. Do it for 30 days.

Before the next interview / negotiation / performance review, re-read your proud list.

Feel the instant confidence boost.

Do you know about the 2-word rule of praise?

This changes the game for smart, accomplished women who struggle with impostor syndrome and low self-confidence at work. The struggle stops today.

In this interactive Q&A with coaches Shyla Cash and Anke Docherty, we addressed the following questions:

• What is trauma and how can smart ambitious women understand it so we can move forward?

• What does it mean to "regulate your emotions?" And how do we do it?

• If you've been unexpectedly let go from your job due to COVID, what's the best way to address this in job applications or interviews? and more…

One of the things I'm most proud of in the month of June is that I let myself feel sad. 

Deep sorrow about injustice, quarantine, and my dashed hopes for a beach vacation. 

A few times this month, I cleared my schedule to just sit and be with sad, as if it were a friend. And cry. 

In this bonus training, I walk you through four simple and powerful coaching tools I use to help my coaching clients bounce back from the emotional fallout of dealing with COVID-19 and racial injustice crises in our world (as of June 2020).

You'll learn:

1. How to reclaim your power in difficult situations so you can feel emotionally in control

2. Simple strategies for dealing with stress and emotional fallout without snapping at people or repeating mantras…and more

For a former boss, I may still be the Korean “girl” who never smiled at work. (Outside of work, I smiled plenty)

Or a bleeding heart liberal who belonged at a nonprofit. (This was the career assessment I once got from a CTO of a startup)

Here's what's working for my clients:

👉🏼 Bouncing back from COVID lay-off by creating a vision for her future so vivid, that she can feel the fabric of the outfit her Future Self is wearing as a public speaker. Then audaciously volunteering to give a talk at the next virtual conference.

My first job out of college, I got paid $10/hour to make cold calls for a shady internet company until the CEO got indicted for shady behavior.

I can do better than this, I thought.

Why do so many women settle for feeling bad about not asking for what they want, and fear feeling bad after hearing no?

Read this post to understand the two fundamental reasons underlying this reluctance to negotiate, so you can overcome it.