For my clients Ellie and Janae, the crucial piece to making their self-advocacy a success was first gaining agency over their emotions, so that they felt LESS anxiety and MORE confidence. 

Read more to find out what they said to get the most out of their self-advocacy at work.

Dr. Linda Babcock of Harvard Kennedy School (along with other really smart PHDs) has published academic papers that prove women can close gender pay gaps when they use one or more of the following strategies. 

Have you tried them? 

When it came to engaging in informal coffee chats with the company COO, or when I sat down 1:1 with my direct supervisor or an industry mentor to talk about the career growth I wanted for myself... 

I'd inexplicably find myself tongue-tied and unsure of myself, with a lump of anxiety pressing into my throat and stomach.  Here’s what I learned since then.

I was recently asked,

"My boss seems distant and cold since I asked for a pay raise. Have I shot myself in the foot?" 

Here’s my answer.

Did you get passed over for a promotion?

If your sexist and racist employer doesn’t acknowledge your contributions or your potential, CHANNEL your well-founded anger to TAKE ACTION. 

HERE are three options that you can take.

Money is simply a bonus byproduct of having honored the limitless capacity of the human mind and soul, of having cultivated courage and conviction in the face of difficult circumstances. 

Honoring your humanity and taking courageous action enable you to be gainfully employed, to be present and available to those you love when you're not working, so you can experience the joy of a well-lived life.

Who I am and what I do today would've been impossible, if my mother didn't earn her own money as a professional. 

This lights a FIRE in my soul to help women help themselves do and provide better. Because the impact of women's financial empowerment ripples out and enhances the lives of people generations out. 

As the only woman in her engineering team, my client Amy went from feeling misunderstood and misrepresented by her manager to fast-tracking her promotion and 40% pay raise.

Here are the four steps she took.

Read more to test them out for yourself.

As an executive coach, I help smart women who hate office politics get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus.

If you're thinking, "I'm no fan of office politics myself, so how do you advance your career without playing games?" here's THE secret sauce.

A loving connection with yourself. Lemme explain.

At first when the instructor taught me the ins and outs of a sewing machine, I felt a tinge of anxiety.

“Oh, I’m gonna mess this up.

“I need all this detail written down on a Google Doc so I can study it, then maybe I’d feel competent enough to use a sewing machine for the first time.” 😂

Then I had a flash of insight.

When I graduated college nearly twenty years ago, I had no idea what I was doing.

I worked in sales, in finance, in procurement, and later at tech startups…

not because I had a passion for any of those things, but simply because my employers gave me a paying job.

Though I was competent enough to get hired, get promoted, and grow a team…

I had very little confidence in myself, and it showed.

Read more to learn how I turned this around.

In this replay, you’ll see me teach the core principles that help me and my clients bounce back from being thwarted, getting disappointed, and feeling doubtful in our careers.

You’ll also see me coach attendees, one at a time.

If you know anyone else who could benefit from this replay, please be kind and share.

Interrupt the interrupter.
Show respect to YOU.

Read more for both my personal story and three sample scripts.

My client came up with a brilliant strategy to overcome the “I gotta look into it” objection AHEAD of time. (And generously gave me permission to share it with you)

Read more for how you too can secure your raise with zero objections.

A client of mine, a marketing expert, wanted to get promoted to Director of Global Marketing for a new product line that had recently been launched at her company.

She was already dedicating 90% of her time to do the work of a Global Director for this product, but didn't have the title yet.

There were two barriers…

Read more for the full story.

You soul knows you're meant for EXPANSION, and that's why you want to grow personally and professionally.
But your brain tells a different story when it thinks about actually engaging in negotiation. 

Here are three things to remember when you’re in the grips of negotiation anxiety.

Why checking every box and doing your best work don’t lead to a promotion

• The power of asking the right questions to shift your perspective

• The lightbulb moment that got DeAndra to say out loud what she’d never say out loud prior to coaching

• How DeAndra created clarity in her career and secured her dream job with a salary bump

Dr. Tenisha shares:

• How to deal with feeling intimidated being around other smart people who have more experience than you...and how to answer imposter syndrome with self-confidence

• How coaching is different from doing self-discoveries, reading books, listening to podcasts, and watching Youtube...especially when things get hard and you don't know what to do

• How to become more bold in your workplace communication without worrying about what other people think, and where to place your focus for maximum impact instead

As an executive coach for women, I’m here to point out how familiar or “right” it can feel:

👉🏼 To say yes to redundant tasks to "take one for the team" that lead to burnout

👉🏼 To try to be friends with colleagues, at the expense of becoming a decisive leader

👉🏼 To give up on your negotiating power by assuming a passive voice instead of an engaged and active one in career conversations

Read more to find out why.

Just because Sam or Steve got promoted grinding and hustling for approval, it doesn’t mean you have to do it like them.

Everything is negotiable. Including HOW you get promoted.

For example:

My client Amy is a senior software engineer — the first woman to lead a project in a nearly all male team.

Recently, her boss told her, "I’m relying on you to be a top producer for feature work. This will help you get to the next level."

Read more to find out how she’s going to negotiate her promotion.