😤 “She was dismissive of me in a meeting I led. She thinks she’s smarter than me,” a client vented today in a coaching session.

My client is a newly hired team lead, assigned a hiring budget and project mandate.

When I ask her why she needs the buy-in of the person who’d been dismissive, she says, “That’s how I’ll know I can do this.”

If I were to be Kamala’s executive coach for the next 104 days until the election (yes, a girl’s allowed to dream big 😉), I’d work to equip her with brain-boosting tools to go from great to exceptionally well-resourced.

Truth be told, I feel inadequate at work, pretty much every day. Yet I keep growing, and I’m effective at helping my clients grow beyond their "imposter syndromes" because I know this one mic-drop of a fact…

While I’m away on vacation in Singapore, I’m sharing some of my favorite podcast episodes because they'll inspire you to think about your future in a bigger, more audacious light. 

In the interactive workshop, I walk volunteers through exactly how to do peripheral vision and bilateral stimulation, two self-directed neuroplasticity tools I learned from my mentor Melissa Tiers, author of the Anti-Anxiety Toolkit. In the book, Melissa states she intends to get the reader to learn these rapid techniques to rewire the brain FAST and, within minutes, experience a palpable shift in their bodies. Which is precisely what we did in Confidence Lab.

Confidence grows when we learn to trust ourselves, even when life or the recent reorg feels chaotic. 

Now is the time to start taking stock of your contributions, so you can gracefully and assertively take credit for your wins and set the stage for your career advancement in conversations before, during, and after the mid-year review. (Or, if going elsewhere is the better answer, in a series of interviews you set up in the coming months.)

We’ve forgotten what worthiness looks like. Here’s a quick reminder.

I'm a transplant from South Korea and a naturalized New Yorker for 19 years and counting.
A career and executive coach for women.
Someone learning to navigate the perimenopause journey.

Can we please talk about perimenopause? 
Perimenopause is NOT a disease, not just hot flashes, and not something most doctors -- nor most workplaces -- understand. 
EVEN THOUGH NEARLY ALL WOMEN GO THROUGH IT -- at the peak of our careers. 

I used to be a high-strung, high-anxiety high-achiever who was convinced she wasn't achieving fast enough.

Got downtime on the job? I must be doing something wrong.

Got hired at a hedge fund? My job can't possibly be safe, because I don't know enough.

What we do need is more women, more minorities, and more capable folks sidelined because of historic injustices speaking their desires and claiming their values — without guilt and without apology — while cultivating the kind of self-respect that nurtures mutual respect. 

Angela joined me on the podcast to discuss the fascinating insights from prehistory -- yes, way before the invention of writing things down -- that debunk the myth that patriarchy is just "the way it's always been."

It's about going on a sober, science-backed journey through time, 10,000 years before modern civilization, to uncover the true roots of gender oppression. 

I turned away a prospective client today. She’s someone who’d fit my “best fit client” profile (if you’d excuse the marketing speak). Smart, competent, promoted in the STEM field. A potential feminist hero 🦸‍♀️!

🏀 I am the Michael Jordan of coaching women into career ascension.
📈 I’m obsessed with repeated slam dunks into more clarity and confidence that get competent women promoted and better paid. Like my client Tracy. 

Wanna get promoted by Q4?

Here’s how.

No funny stuff.

The dead simple answer.

A client came to the session saying that she was having trouble advocating for herself at work because the issue felt like this (places palm over face) -- that she had no objectivity. The issue felt too close for comfort. She couldn't see the broader picture, and she felt stuck. If you can relate to this, try this technique I demonstrate in a 3-minute video tutorial.

Like the iPhone, learning the inner logic of our brains is user-friendly and doesn’t require a science degree. You can become skilled at using this inner logic to help you generate more confidence, get promoted, and get better paid.

In this space, we alchemize workplace anxiety, stuckness, and frustration into pragmatic groundedness, forward momentum, and therefore, gratifying self-actualization. 

The real secret to negotiating for what you want ISN'T something you don't already know. 

It's actually about DISSOLVING the reasons you hesitate, "wait and see", or avoid having conversations with people who can say no.