You'll speak up in a meeting and offer a strategic solution to a shared problem only to be unacknowledged, ignored, or worse yet, shushed. 

Then a colleague -- almost always a man -- will paraphrase your idea and get praised for it. 

Next time something like this happens to you, please for the love of Jove -- do NOT stay silent. 

If getting better paid and promoted were simply based on being excellent at what you do, you'd have been a millionaire CXO years ago.

So why shouldn't you be paid at the top of the pay range? 

“I’m the worst at doing the ‘warm and fuzzy’ things. I’d much rather go straight to business,” my client said. As a forward-thinking VP leading a talented team of consultants, she’s determined to solidify her team’s reputation as essential to her firm’s success. With her first in-person team retreat on the horizon, we developed a four-step plan to help her achieve this…

If you struggle with premenstrual pain, if you’re autistic or ADHD, or if you’re highly sensitive to hormonal fluctuations (me, all of the above) — please read Shalene Gupta’s book The Cycle and implement these three best practices that work for high-achieving women with wombs.

You did something miraculous and wondrous with your body.

You created a new life, a new consciousness. You went on maternity leave, which is your right.

If you’re coming back and realizing you’ll have more work on your plate, this is what it means…

Now that things are slowing down and she has bandwidth… it feels very uncomfortable.

Like people don’t have confidence in her (otherwise, why would they withhold more work from her?).

Here’s how I coached my client.

“😥 Ugh, negotiating with Picky Pat (my boss) a couple years ago was so emotionally exhausting that I’d do anything to avoid confronting them again this year, even though I know I’m overdue for a market rate adjustment,” my client said. My client wants to feel confident going into future conversations about the promotion and raise she wants. 

😤 “She was dismissive of me in a meeting I led. She thinks she’s smarter than me,” a client vented today in a coaching session.

My client is a newly hired team lead, assigned a hiring budget and project mandate.

When I ask her why she needs the buy-in of the person who’d been dismissive, she says, “That’s how I’ll know I can do this.”

If I were to be Kamala’s executive coach for the next 104 days until the election (yes, a girl’s allowed to dream big 😉), I’d work to equip her with brain-boosting tools to go from great to exceptionally well-resourced.

Truth be told, I feel inadequate at work, pretty much every day. Yet I keep growing, and I’m effective at helping my clients grow beyond their "imposter syndromes" because I know this one mic-drop of a fact…

While I’m away on vacation in Singapore, I’m sharing some of my favorite podcast episodes because they'll inspire you to think about your future in a bigger, more audacious light. 

In the interactive workshop, I walk volunteers through exactly how to do peripheral vision and bilateral stimulation, two self-directed neuroplasticity tools I learned from my mentor Melissa Tiers, author of the Anti-Anxiety Toolkit. In the book, Melissa states she intends to get the reader to learn these rapid techniques to rewire the brain FAST and, within minutes, experience a palpable shift in their bodies. Which is precisely what we did in Confidence Lab.

Confidence grows when we learn to trust ourselves, even when life or the recent reorg feels chaotic. 

Now is the time to start taking stock of your contributions, so you can gracefully and assertively take credit for your wins and set the stage for your career advancement in conversations before, during, and after the mid-year review. (Or, if going elsewhere is the better answer, in a series of interviews you set up in the coming months.)

We’ve forgotten what worthiness looks like. Here’s a quick reminder.

I'm a transplant from South Korea and a naturalized New Yorker for 19 years and counting.
A career and executive coach for women.
Someone learning to navigate the perimenopause journey.

Can we please talk about perimenopause? 
Perimenopause is NOT a disease, not just hot flashes, and not something most doctors -- nor most workplaces -- understand. 
EVEN THOUGH NEARLY ALL WOMEN GO THROUGH IT -- at the peak of our careers. 

I used to be a high-strung, high-anxiety high-achiever who was convinced she wasn't achieving fast enough.

Got downtime on the job? I must be doing something wrong.

Got hired at a hedge fund? My job can't possibly be safe, because I don't know enough.

What we do need is more women, more minorities, and more capable folks sidelined because of historic injustices speaking their desires and claiming their values — without guilt and without apology — while cultivating the kind of self-respect that nurtures mutual respect.