After working with so many women of color in executive roles, I’ve come to recognize the pattern immediately.

It feels like an under-the-radar tug-of-war between:

1. Your chronic need to prove yourself to decision-makers and

2. Decision-makers who tighten their grip, drag their feet, and withhold approval — even when you’ve exceeded expectations.

And the harder you pull to demonstrate value, competence, and good faith… …the tighter their end of the rope feels.