[SCRIPTS} Say No Without Being a Jerk

Your honest no is a kind yes to you and it's in the best interest of everyone.

Even if the folks who ask for your time quibble at your no, you benefit them by NOT going against your integrity. By NOT doing things half-heartedly, while wishing you’d said no in the first place.

So I invite you to borrow, steal or adapt any of the following —

Intention Neutrality for Greater Visibility

When you practice Intention Neutrality, you can interpret their intentions in the best way that helps you respond with calm confidence.

For my client who wants to grow her visibility at work, Intentional Neutrality led to her consciously choosing to interpret this person's request as, "They're trying to help me."

She's going from frozen and feeling like she's not doing a good enough job, to fluid and feeling calm, supported as she grows her visibility with stress-free, speedy updates.

Impossible is Temporary

In college, figuring out a career outside of school felt impossible.

Then in the "real world," feeling good enough at what I do felt impossible.

So did taking credit, feeling confident, comfortable in my own skin, or asking for a raise or promotion — all impossible.

For a while.

Then I did the impossible things.

[CLIENT INTERVIEW] Sarah Eadie: How to Reduce Self-Doubt at Work and Send That Tough Email

How do you spend less time worrying about what others think and hit SEND on that brave and tough email?

How do you deliver bad news or share an opposing opinion WITHOUT second guessing your every word?

So that you have more time, faster results and the confidence of a professional?

This was the growth journey of my client Sarah Eadie who generously shares her coaching experience in this 8 minute video. Watch or read the transcript here.

[CLIENT INTERVIEW] Sarah's Story: How to Get Promoted and Better Paid After Flipping No to Yes

No often means something even better is coming around the corner.

This is what my client Sarah Eadie took to heart from our coaching sessions.

After being told she didn't have adequate experience, she flipped no to yes and got hired into a higher-paying role.

A year into that role, she was promoted. Last year she earned a $30K bonus.

She spoke candidly with me in this video interview about how she did it.

Negotiation Is An Act of Service

You have a desire to serve others. As a working woman, a leader, a mother, a daughter, a mentor to others. Your desire to serve is NOT at odds with your capacity to negotiate your career.

Here are 3 stories of my clients who negotiated as an act of service and generated win-win outcomes. This is possible for you, too.

How To Do The Impossible In the New Year

This month, I'm helping my clients set impossible goals for 2021.

Going from newly hired associate director in 2020 to managing 2 PnL lines by end of 2021. From learning the ropes this year to raising $300MM in capital for a new investment fund. Ending next year as the first woman of color company executive. WITHOUT burnout.

Going First Without Knowing the How

I got to each first doing it messy.

I made LOTS of mistakes. (And still do.)

The costliest mistakes were whenever I thought I had to be fake, play politics or jump through extra hurdles to "prove my worth" at work.

The 2-Word Rule for Praise

Do you know about the 2-word rule of praise?

This changes the game for smart, accomplished women who struggle with impostor syndrome and low self-confidence at work. The struggle stops today.

[REPLAY] How to Revitalize Your Career Post-COVID 19

In this interactive Q&A with coaches Shyla Cash and Anke Docherty, we addressed the following questions:

  • What is trauma and how can smart ambitious women understand it so we can move forward?

  • What does it mean to "regulate your emotions?" And how do we do it?

  • If you've been unexpectedly let go from your job due to COVID, what's the best way to address this in job applications or interviews? and more…

The Weird Thing I did in June 2020

One of the things I'm most proud of in the month of June is that I let myself feel sad. 

Deep sorrow about injustice, quarantine, and my dashed hopes for a beach vacation. 

A few times this month, I cleared my schedule to just sit and be with sad, as if it were a friend. And cry.