Locus of Control: Who’s Holding the Remote to Your Career?
No one is coming to crown you. You put the tiara on.
When you bring the locus of control back inside, you’re not denying the reality of bias or structural barriers.
You hold the remote. You choose your next move. You vote—for yourself, with your tribe, and, when needed, with your feet.
That’s what sovereignty looks like in your career.
The High-Performer’s Paradox: Why Non-Striving is the Key to Getting Where You Want to Go
Kabat-Zinn gently pointed me back to the thing I’d temporarily forgotten—despite a decade of preaching the same thing to high-performing anxious people: The healing paradox of non-striving.
The less you try to change your current inner experience, the faster you can actually do something about it.
The more you try to "fix" your emotions and beliefs, the stickier and trickier they get.