Jamie Lee is an executive coach for smart women who hate office politics. She helps them get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus.
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In the best of worlds, she could create abundance even without the billionaire. She could found a company, grow it, and guide it to a successful exit event that generates significant returns for herself and her shareholders.
So together, we crafted a negotiation script that anchored her starting salary above the stated range. We aimed for 4X her current pay.
Let’s be honest—coaching isn’t magic. But sometimes, the space to stop go-go-going and start listening to the wisdom of your deeper mind can unlock some seriously unexpected momentum.
That’s what happened with my client SJ.
A client recently transitioned into a custom-made-for-her leadership role—with executive sponsorship and the team support of her dreams. And now? 🥶 She's frozen. In her words -- "overwhelmed by everything [she] could be doing."
The day I found out I was underpaid from reading an industry newsletter with salary benchmarks, it dawned on me like a gut punch:
I DIDN’T KNOW HOW TO ADVOCATE FOR MYSELF.
My mom — a South Korean immigrant with ironclad grit who wishes nothing less than abundance and success for her children — would probably get mad at me for saying this: I delight in making less money, by design.
It’s not a failure of strategy or a lack of hard work. Choosing to leave money on the proverbial table is a deliberate, values-based choice.
Feeling like a "fraud" is super normal, even for me. The more I coach subject matter experts and executive women, the more I see that imposter syndrome is never an indicator of actual competency but a hypnotic spell induced by a society steeped in bias against women and minorities. We can break the spell of this terribly boring hypnosis by co-opting its language. So there, I'm a "fraud."
A client of mine, let's call her Jia -- a thought leader in her field -- is preparing for a showdown.
Doing what's in Jia's best long-term interest financially, professionally, and personally means communicating a decision that will anger her biggest client (for now).
Here are the three steps we took in coaching.
“Do you do this with every client?” My client asked me yesterday.
She had already secured a promotion to Director during our coaching engagement and was gearing up to apply for another one.
“I’m the worst at doing the ‘warm and fuzzy’ things. I’d much rather go straight to business,” my client said. As a forward-thinking VP leading a talented team of consultants, she’s determined to solidify her team’s reputation as essential to her firm’s success. With her first in-person team retreat on the horizon, we developed a four-step plan to help her achieve this…
“😥 Ugh, negotiating with Picky Pat (my boss) a couple years ago was so emotionally exhausting that I’d do anything to avoid confronting them again this year, even though I know I’m overdue for a market rate adjustment,” my client said. My client wants to feel confident going into future conversations about the promotion and raise she wants.
If I were to be Kamala’s executive coach for the next 104 days until the election (yes, a girl’s allowed to dream big 😉), I’d work to equip her with brain-boosting tools to go from great to exceptionally well-resourced.
In this space, we alchemize workplace anxiety, stuckness, and frustration into pragmatic groundedness, forward momentum, and therefore, gratifying self-actualization.
The real secret to negotiating for what you want ISN'T something you don't already know.
It's actually about DISSOLVING the reasons you hesitate, "wait and see", or avoid having conversations with people who can say no.
20 years ago, we were graduating from Smith and had NO idea that we can grow in our careers faster than we thought possible WITHOUT
✅ Overworking
✅ Over-accommodating
✅ Or overthinking the whole thing.
Still working on that last one? You’re not alone.
What results would you need to create for the coaching to pay for itself?
What if, as a result of coaching, you negotiated a pay bump?
And what would it be worth in the long run to have the mindset and strategies of confident self-advocacy become second nature to you?
In the article “Dos and Don’ts of Asking for a Raise,” you’ll learn:
What and when to document to build a strong case for your raise
How to tailor your ask in a way that minimizes blowback and maximizes respect
Word-for-word suggested scripts from two experts, and so much more
"When I think about asking for raise, my anxiety spikes, because what if they say no? I'll feel like a total failure."
A BIPOC client said this to me the other day.
Read on for the three-step strategy I offered my client, so she can advocate for her career growth with more ease and confidence.
✨ Do this 1 minute exercise to dissolve 🫠 your anxiety
Ahead of a negotiation, board presentation, or a difficult conversation…
(Or to stop 🛑 rumination when things are slow)
It’s NOT your fault if the path to promotion feels murky or unfair…
because in reality, it is FAR from true meritocracy.
And here’s the thing to remember.
